Have You Moved On? An Unexpected Test From The Universe

Earlier this week, the Universe sent yours truly a test that (in the moment) shook her to the core.

I was pleasantly surprised to see a notification that someone started following my blog. Unfortunately, I was met with a reality that wasn’t as exciting as I would have hoped. This new “follower” wasn’t some random stranger who stumbled across my words on the interwebs. It was one of my exes.

And if I’m being honest, I hoped to never think of this person (or hear from him) ever again.

I felt violated. I was angry. Why would someone who hasn’t been a part of my life for years start following my blog? Haven’t they moved on? Because I sure as hell have.

Then I took a step back, and realized this might be a test from the Universe.

The old me would have exploded in rage, let it ruin her day (or week), curse his name for all of the pain he caused me (because he caused me a ton), and a variety of other reactions that are valid but aren’t necessarily aligned with my highest good.

Rather than erupting in rage, I made an active decision to become curious. I decided to come from a place of compassion rather than a place of I’m-going-to-lose-my-frickin’-mind-if-he-gets-anywhere-near-me. I’m not justifying his behavior, how he treated me, or why he decided to type his name and email address to subscribe to my blog.

Because this isn’t about him. I can’t control his decisions. . .but I can control mine.

I realized how much I have grown since the end of that relationship. I felt gratitude for my journey and sent love to the girl who showed immense courage to change her life for the better (with no idea how). As a result of that bravery, I am now happier, more confident, more compassionate, and love the person I see when I look in the mirror. But most of all, I have fully forgiven this person and am no longer tied to that relationship — and all of the pain associated with it.

In short: I have truly moved on. I moved on for me, not for him.

The path of my life has unexpected twists and turns, but I trust they are there for a reason. My path won’t look like yours, but both are beautifully unique and perfectly imperfect.

Here’s to walking our paths every day, rain or shine.



Trauma survivor + reformed f*ckboy dater. Lover of all things “woo woo.” Here to discuss what might be keeping you from the epic life you want + deserve.